Do, you get nervous when speaking in front of people? Have you read lots of articles on how to get over it, and felt they sort of worked. There are a variety of ways to solve the problem. However, a lot of it depends on circumstance. Not all methods, work with all people in all situations.
So, how to find what works? I generally breaking thing down into three categories. And against those categories. There are three general effective methods. There are lots to quick tactics that help you temporarily. But, I find the following three methods are truly effective.
The first is a what I call the Carnegie method. The second is what I call the OFTA method. The third is Focusing.
All of it fits in the chart as shown. If you are generally aware of the cause your nervousness. The Carnegie method will work. If you not much aware of your nervousness, then OFTA can be a better tool. If you have no idea at all where your nervousness is coming from then counselling and Focusing will work much better.
I will start the Carnegie method. It was all spelled out in Dale Carnegie book, "How to Stop Worrying and Start Living." Perhaps, not a great title, but still you get the point as to what the book is about.
However, before I go into the method, there is one important point I want to get a across. That is that ANY negative emotion is a signal for something. If you feel sad, mad, nervous, etc. It is ok to feel those emotions. But, instead of letting the emotions grab you pull you where you do not want to go, you need to stop and pay attention. You are getting those emotions for a reason.
So, the question is "Why are you nervous?" What are the things that could happen that make you nervous? It could be that you forget parts of your presentation. You worry about what the other person will not like what you have to say, etc.
Some of your worries will be reasonable. Some of them will not be.
You need to decide what you will accept and what you will not.
The best way to decided that is to know if you can do anything about it. If you cannot do anything about it, they you need to learn to accept it. If you can do something about it, then list all the things you can do to prevent or solve the problem when it does happen.
After that it is just doing what you decided.
If fact, a lot of nervousness comes into play because you have not decided what you will do, when some bad situation comes around. So, do yourself a favor and try out the Carnegie method. You may find out that it will greatly reduce your nervousness.